(via queersecrets)

Sex should not hurt! Ever! Especially anal intercourse. If it’s painful, it can also be dangerous and damaging. You could get really, really hurt, so please, please, the moment it hurts, stop.

The key is communication. Take things slowly if you must.  Make sure that you use enough lube.  Talk to your partner.  Start out small: use fingers, sex toys, etc, slowly building your way up.  Relax your anal muscles.

If it continues to hurt, don’t do it, and don’t be afraid to say no. There are other ways to have sex: only be on top, have oral and manual sex, enjoy mutual masturbation, use sex toys, watch porn together, etc, etc.

Please, please don’t let yourself be hurt, or pressured into being hurt!

(Note: Although I do have a vagina, I am also familiar with receiving anal intercourse, so I do know what I’m talking about.)